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Cowgirl—also known as woman on top, or partner on top—is among the most-searched-for sex positions nationwide. But even your favorite sex moves can start to feel stale if you never mix things up. If you’re looking for a sexy twist (literally) on the classic cowgirl position, you might want to try the variation known as reverse cowgirl, where the “rider” faces the penetrating partner’s feet instead of their face.
There’s something in it for everyone, especially if the penetrating partner appreciates a booty-ful view. “Reverse cowgirl looks super sexy,” says Gigi Engle, a certified sex educator and author of All the F*cking Mistakes. And if the partner on top has a vulva, reverse cowgirl “also gives the receiver access to their clitoris without worrying about being stared at.” (Friendly reminder that the vast majority of vulva-owners need clitoral stimulation—not just penetration—in order to orgasm.)
Another bonus? Reverse cowgirl works for vaginal and anal penetration. Despite the position’s name, people of all genders can be on top and get penetrated in this position.
How to Do Reverse Cowgirl
To understand reverse cowgirl, you first need to understand regular cowgirl. In the regular cowgirl position, the partner doing the penetrating lies down, and the receiving partner straddles them while facing forward. (It’s called “cowgirl” because it looks like the partner on top is “riding” the person underneath them, like a horse.) There are variations to cowgirl depending on where the person on top places their feet and which direction they lean, but there’s always one person “on top.”
Reverse cowgirl is the same as cowgirl, except the person on top is facing away from their partner. To get into this position, the rider should start by standing over their partner, facing away from them. Then they should squat down over their partner’s penis. “Because the angle is a little unnatural, take it slow,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT, sex therapist, and author of She Comes First. The person on top should lean back while inserting their partner’s penis into their vagina or anus; this allows better angling for penetration. The rider can even go ahead and lock their arms beside them, in a crab-like pose.
When you’re in the position, it looks like this:
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Benefits of Reverse Cowgirl
We’re not going to lie: the angles of reverse cowgirl aren’t for everyone. If you’re doing vaginal penetration, some vulva-owners may find it’s easier to get G-spot stimulation in regular cowgirl. But there’s a lot to love, too.
The partner on top…
- Can “control depth and thrusting patterns with relative ease,” Engle says, making it “the bomb” for anal intercourse, especially.
- Might feel more comfortable facing away if they’re “a little self-conscious about their tummy or chest bouncing about,” or having their partner watch them play with their clitoris, Engle says.
- Has their hands free to bring a sex toy into the mix—more on that in the next section.
The partner lying down…
- Really gets to appreciate the rider’s rear end. They can “lie back and take in the visuals, squeeze their partner’s buttocks, spank them, or enjoy some anal fingering,” Kerner says.
- Can take a moment to catch their breath if they’ve been thrusting away in missionary or doggie style beforehand.
- Can enjoy the sensation of super-deep penetration, Kerner says.
How to Make Reverse Cowgirl Even Better
Bring in a sex toy.
There are so many different ways to play with toys in this position. If the rider has a vulva, Engle recommends using a wand vibrator for clitoral stimulation. “The Magic Wand or Le Wand are great for this position because while sitting upright, you can grind against the head of the wand for maximum pleasure,” she says.
If either partner has a penis, they can also use a cock ring, which helps the wearer keep a strong erection. “This can be especially helpful if the penis haver doesn’t maintain erections as easily in a bottom position,” Engle says.
Keep your angles in mind.
Most penises angle up and toward the stomach when erect. It’s important for the person on top to ride at a similar angle to the penis—otherwise, it could cause pain for the person on the bottom. If the rider on top wants to lean forward, then the person penetrating should lift their back, either with their elbows or the help of pillows. Again, the idea is to mirror the natural curvature of the penis.
Work together to prevent slippage.
Since reverse cowgirl puts the receiving partner in control, it’s a little easier for the penis or dildo to accidentally slip out. To curb slippage—and potential penis injury—the person on the bottom can hold the hips of the person riding them to help control the depth of penetration.
Ease the strain.
This is a strenuous position for the person on top. If you’re the rider, “you can rest your hands on their legs for a little extra leverage and support,” Engle says. “This can help with the thigh burn.” The penetrating partner can also support the rider by lifting their rear end up and down, or thrust into the rider while holding their ass up with their hands.
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